People say that as a married lady you either have a baby or you don’t!
But I believe, that there’s also another phase of life when you actually have a baby, but actually you don’t! That’s when you say you are…
Two lines on the kit- and my ‘life’ changed forever – ‘I’ changed forever – ‘We’changed forever and it all started from there – never to end!
I was pregnant – I had a baby growing inside me which was scheduled to pop out of me in the next 8 months (because a month had already passed by the time I came to know the good news) and most of all, I had to compulsorily eject that baby out of me – no matter what happened!
Well, since ours was a planned pregnancy – the two vertical lines didn’t come as a horrible shock to me! Unlike my other friends who slapped their foreheads with their hands the moment they realized they are pregnant, I gently touched my belly with those hands acknowledging the presence of ‘my’ baby in there and smiled gently!
I was super happy, super excited, on cloud nine-nineteen-ninety nine, felt like floating in the air; but! I could not show it on my face as I thought it was too early to disclose it to all and had to contain my happiness inside my belly – which was actually ‘fast filling’ by then!
Well, life doesn’t stop when the wave of change arrives and the same happened in my case too. The wave poured in and so did the changes! Here’s my account of
How life changed after I got pregnant:
For a working woman, career does take a hit, be it for a long time or short. I had just moved to a new city and though wasn’t working when I came to know the good news, but yes, I did consciously sit and decide to not get back to work as the pregnancy progressed. I knew things were going to change thereafter.
Medicines, medicines and more medicines
I found myself popping in a folic acid tablet every night after dinner. A few months into the pregnancy and the calcium and iron tablets made their way into my tummy. From ‘never-having-any-medicines’ on a regular basis in my life earlier to having three tablets a day was very pressurizing at times. I had to keep a track of when to have which one and also had to take care of the stocking up of the same. Moreover, the nausea that the iron tablets brought along with them was so terrible that I can still feel my stomach churn as I write this. Ew!
The morning sickness monster that is supposed to attack you only in the mornings spilled over to afternoon, evening and night as well, for me. God made sure that I realize and absorb properly the fact that I’m pregnant by making me feel nauseous all the time for a good 4 months!
I’m otherwise a not a hardcore walk lover and prefer cycling or driving if given a choice. However, after I got pregnant; my gynecologist advised me to take up walking as a regular form of exercise till I reached my second trimester. So I walked and walked and walked. I enjoyed doubling up these walking exercise sessions as leisurely chat sessions with my baby’s dad a.k.a my husband!
My internet surfing preferences changed and they were not Facebook or Twitter anymore. I found myself on firstcry, hopscotch, babyoye and almost 60% of my awake time was spent surfing babycentre!
I established a special connection with the age-old tried, tested and proven ‘Yoga’ only after I got pregnant. I had tried Yoga before getting pregnant too, but was never so regular and disciplined in practicing it. Prenatal Yoga actually arose and awakened the dormant disciplined ‘me’ and made me realize that discipline and regularity in routine tasks is something I’ll have to set up a long-term connection with, from now on.
I am not a strong believer of home remedies at all and truly speaking I’m highly impatient when it comes to waiting for those slow and not-so-fast remedies to work and show their so-called magical effect. Anyway, since I conceived, as the Bollywood Moms say, ” Ab tumhe sirf apne liye nahi, uskay liye bhi jeena hai…” (Now you have to live not only for yourself, but also for your baby)- I actually started living not just for myself, but also for my baby – the unseen, the untouched and the unheard creature growing inside me. I actually started avoiding medicines for common ailments like cough, cold, headache, body ache etc. and started searching, trying, using and ‘almost’ swearing by home remedies. Oh pregnancy!
Sound sleep is the most important and the most yearned for luxury after getting pregnant. There have been nights where I had to give up my sleep for peeing for as high as up to 8 times! I tried what not to get good sleep at night- starting from skipping my afternoon nap, trying to deliberately tire myself, reading, listening to music, warm water bath before going to bed – what not! But, all failed. I realized life had changed and sleep was only a long lost dream now!
I don’t remember the last time I felt as pampered as I did in those 9 months of pregnancy. I remember my mom-in-law asking me to jot down a list of things that I loved to do, wished to do and the ones I though I wouldn’t be able to do soon after I have a baby. She and all the family members made sure I get to tick off every single thing on that list including a lunch at a 5 star hotel, buying designer dresses and designer jewelry! I really wish I get pregnant once every year just to re-live those 9 months of my life:D
I am not a foodie, but I surely am a big time ‘Fruitie’! I simply love fruits to the moon and back and had fruits like anything while I was pregnant. Starting from watermelons, mangoes and litchis to strawberries, black berries, kiwis and jack fruits. Life seemed amazing with the fruit diet I enjoyed every day.
A lady’s body changes as much as her life changes due to pregnancy. An increased size of your bra, a popped out belly with a dark line on it, heavier bottom, swollen fingers and feet, lustrous skin and hair and a beautiful divine glow make you realize every morning after getting up that life has definitely changed.
Your thinking and your thoughts completely change after getting pregnant. Whenever I looked at babies, the thought of holding my own in my arms brightened me up. Whenever I saw a Mom, I immediately visualized what labor must have been like for her. Invariably all my thoughts became baby-centric and it seemed that all events and decisions of life revolved around my pregnancy, my due date, my delivery and my baby.
I didn’t spend more time in any of the rooms of my house as much as I did in the restroom! Initially it was because I was constipated, then I was morning sick, then I was down with backache (so needed lot of warm water baths) and all throughout the pregnancy I felt like I wanted to pee like a racehorse – so much so that after delivery I missed my pee trips to the restroom and thought if I was dehydrated perhaps to pee only once in 3-4 hours!
Life surely changes after getting pregnant, but actually it’s just a phase of solid preparation ‘awarded’ to a lady by Nature. A preparation for the tough and easy times coming ahead, for the sleepless nights that she’ll have to go through, for the changes she’ll go through and most important of all – preparation for the beautiful life that is going to come ahead:
a life of sacrifice, love and living every moment for the one living inside you…