Keep your shoes in place.
Get up early every day.
Eat fruits daily.
Drink a lot of water.
These are a few of the typical things that your Mom has been telling you since times immemorial and no matter how old you get, you will always remember your Mom for having told this to you over and over again!
But, there are a host of things that your Mom never said to you and will probably never say in the future too. These are things we need to recognize, realize and appreciate her for. There are countless such things actually, but I’ve tried to put into words just `10` of them…
Here are 10 Things Your Mom Never Told You…
How difficult it is to get up in the morning.
Your Mom always is the last person to go to bed in the whole family and always the first one to get up. Imagine how difficult it is to cut down on sleep and get up early to look after the family, to look after you. Who doesn’t love to sleep over? Your Mom too does.
Hats off to you Mom for getting up early in the morning every single day, be it summers or winters, be it a Monday or Sunday, be you sick or healthy and for preparing that delicious school lunch box for me – all your life – without any complaints!
That she too wants to shop till she drops
All ladies love clothes, shoes, bags, accessories and cosmetics – and so does your Mom! But, she always curbs her wishes and ends her wishlist before she starts penning it, just so that she can teach you the value of money and the value of owning things. She does not shop without a reason so that she can save money so that you can shop till you drop!
Hats off to you Ma for cutting down on your shopping trips, for spending weekends at home, for not buying new clothes on your birthday and for filling up my piggy banks just so that I could shop as much as I want.
How boring it is to cook everyday
Imagine the strain, the pressure and the workload that comes with the four-times-a-day cooking task? Not just that, your Mom also has to constantly come up with new and interesting dishes to please your taste buds. She has to cook everyday even if she’s not feeling up to it, even if she wants to step out for a coffee with her friends, even if she wants to stay in bed whole day just to chill.
Hats off to you Mom for cooking everyday for me like it is your job, serving me yummy dishes day in and day out, feeding me fresh food only and not leftovers and cooking at home under all circumstances, just so that I don’t have to eat out.
How bad it is to be shouted at.
Our Moms are our favorite punch bags and we love to shout at her when we are tired or frustrated or sad or angry or irritated. No matter what the reason, all our punches are directed towards our Moms and we are more than dead sure that she will not react negatively, she will not shout back, she will not get angry and will come back to us lovingly instead and solve our problems, lend an ear to us and help us feel better. Though she never told us how depressing, hurting and heart-breaking it feels to be shouted at.
Hats off to you Mom for bearing with me at all times, for understanding me as I am yourself, for not leaving my hand and walking off when I shouted at you in full swing and for absorbing all my anger and frustration literally like a sponge.
How painful it is to be a Mom.
Being pregnant is painful for a mother because it starts from stomach aches, back aches, leg aches and ends at labor pain – which is like the God of all pains you can imagine. But, your Mom never told you how painful it was to be in labor, how painful it was to bear the pain of the stitches every moment after delivery, how painful breastfeeding was for her, how painful it was to take care of you when it was `that` time of the month and how painful it was to even `create` you.
Hats off to you Mom for bearing all the pain that I knowingly or unknowingly gave you, for tolerating it all just to see me smile, for suffering silently so that I could voice my happiness.
How much she misses her freedom.
Your Mom postpones vacations because you have your exams, or job interviews or excursions and trekking trips. She skips going to the movies because she needs to stay back home to take care of your injured leg. She avoids calling friends home so that your peace dosn`t get disturbed. Have you ever thought how much she misses her `pre-You` life?
Hats off to you Mom for changing the way you live just so that I could live comfortably, for altering your wants and wishes so that mine get fulfilled, for not enjoying just any other day that you felt like, for not being able to spend your life the way you used to, for giving up your freedom so that you could cut down on the sadness in my life.
How afraid she is.
Remember how your Mom freaked out the last time your phone went out of coverage or how she had a sleepless night because you came home at 3 in the morning? We never realize but our Moms are the most scared and afraid creatures when it comes to our safety. They might not show it on their faces, but they can`t sleep till they find you in bed next to themselves.
Hats off to you Mom for caring so much about my well-being and safety, for pacing up and down the balcony waiting for my cab to arrive, for being in constant touch over phone just to make sure I reach my destination safely, for being there with all your heart so that no one does any bad to me.
How hurt she is when you compare her with other Moms.
We, very often and without any thought, blabber to our Moms about the goodness of apple pie of the Aunt next door, or the beautiful interiors of our friend`s house or even the lovely sari that our school friend`s Mom gifted her. Many-a-times, these things hurt deep down, because Moms feel if they are being compared to other Moms and as if they have not been successful in giving you the best. We might not intend to hurt our Moms, but being the sensitive and over-caring human beings that they are; it is very natural and obvious for them to feel this way.
Hats off to you Mom for listening patiently to all my blabbering about the greatness of things and people who can never be as great as you are, for always having a smile on your face when I unknowingly compared you with other Moms and for not showing even once on your face how hurt you felt.
How sad she felt when you left her.
Be it the first time you went to school or when you left the city and moved out for higher studies or even when you got married – your Mom became sad, very very sad whenever you went away from her. It is so heart-breaking to see a piece of your heart leave you and go, even if it is to come back in a few hours, months or years. But, our Moms would never show it openly in their eyes, smile or talks just so that we feel comfortable in stepping out and don`t feel bothered about what our Mom`s going through.
Hats off to you Mom for letting me go like you are least moved by the change, for staying strong throughout, for allowing me to step out despite wanting to pull me back and hug me tight to yourself.
How much she misses the pre-You Dad.
Apart from her children, the other important person in our Mom`s life is our Dad. But, she never complained or cribbed about how much she misses spending time with Dad like she used to before you were born, how much she misses dressing up beautifully for him everyday or how much she misses going on laid back dates and vacations with him. She misses his exclusive company – every moment.
Hats off to you Mom for moving on from your honeymooners phase of life to motherhood – so smoothly, without cribbing, without criticizing, without complaining and without letting Dad or me realize the pain of all that you are going through!
I don`t think I will ever be able to conclude this blog post of mine, because I`m in tears as I sign off…